Lately, I’ve noticed that younger generations are talking bucket lists: creating a long, ambitious catalog of things to do “before they die.” Travel Europe. Hike a famous trail. Skydive. Learn a new language. It’s exciting, no doubt. Yet there is something about the phrase “bucket list” that makes it feel . . . final.
And I can’t help but think — what about me? What about women in midlife?
Our pace may be different, our goals may have shifted, and our knees might not appreciate bungee jumping. But we still have dreams. And we still have time. Maybe it’s not about racing the clock or cramming in every adventure before we “kick the bucket.” Maybe it’s about making the most of the life we’re living right now.
So why not make a bucket list now — in midlife?
Sure, it may not be as long or wild as some of those youthful lists, but now that our routines have changed or we’ve entered the empty nest years, we’ve been given a gift: margin. Space to rediscover, try something new, or finally do that “someday” thing we always put on hold.
The term “bucket list” originally came from the phrase “kick the bucket.” It’s become a popular way to describe a list of things to accomplish before you die. But maybe there’s a better way to describe it — especially for this stage of life.
What if we called it a “Life List” instead?
This list isn’t about chasing everything before time runs out. It’s about choosing to live on purpose — to be intentional with the time, energy, and resources we do have. It’s not a race. It’s a celebration. A chance to reflect on what matters most and move forward with joy.
We can also see this as the opportunity to be creative — to try new things, revisit forgotten passions, or explore the unique ways God wired you to express yourself. Whether it’s learning to watercolor, writing your story, or starting a small business, creativity can show up in many forms on your Life List.
What would add to your “Life List?” Whether you do a themed list, a 6 by 60 (years old), or simply jot down dreams that spark excitement, the goal is to make it your own. Here are some examples to get you inspired:
- Travel & Exploration: Places you’ve always wanted to visit — even if they’re local day trips or nearby state parks.
- Adventure & Fun: Try something physical out of your comfort zone, like hiking or pickleball.
- Creative Growth: Learn to paint, take a pottery class, or refurbish old furniture.
- Connection: Reconnect with an old friend, host a girls’ night, or volunteer in your community.
- Continuing Education: It’s never too late to earn your degree or take a class.
- Just Because: Buy the concert tickets. Take the dance class. Go to a Murder Mystery Dinner. Life’s too short not to.
For kicks, I Googled “bucket list ideas” and found thousands of suggestions — literally. There are entire websites devoted to crafting the ultimate list before “you go.” But let’s face it: 1,000 things to do before you die sounds overwhelming. And honestly? A little morbid.
Instead, let’s aim for meaningful over massive. Let’s keep it fun, creative, and achievable — with room to grow.
In fact, that is why I started this blog, to build a community of midlife women—inspiring and supporting each other while discovering their God-given creativity and embracing each season with purpose. We can work on our Life Lists—together and cheer each other along the way.
Because Midlife isn’t the end of the road. It’s a new chapter — one where we get to write the story a little differently. Let’s skip the pressure of “bucket lists” and instead embrace a Life List. A list filled with joy, curiosity, and purpose. You haven’t missed your chance — you’ve just arrived at a beautiful new beginning.
Live it Out: Build Your Own Life List
Try these steps this week to get started on your own Life List:
- Choose a Theme for the Year: Adventure, growth, creativity, connection. Let it shape your list.
- Start with 10: Don’t aim for 100. Start with 10 things that feel doable and exciting for you.
- Pray First: Ask God to show you where He wants to grow and stretch you this season.
- Make It Visual: Create a list in your journal or use a bulletin board to add photos and notes.
- Buddy Up: Share your list with a friend and cheer each other on.
- Celebrate Progress: Whether you check off one item or five, celebrate the steps you do take.
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